rob martin, LMFT
I work with people to make the changes they want by identifying the things they are already good at or interested in; then we look at how those strengths can be expanded to get more control in life and find emotional balance. In clinical language, I say that I practice Cognitive Behavioral Therapy through an Attachment lens with a Rogerian approach. I also utilize practical mindfulness to help bring awareness to ourselves, the world around us, and how we interact with that world.
I work to create a relaxed and accepting environment where we can explore those uncomfortable and vulnerable areas that can throw us off balance. Humor is a big part of my practice, as well as education. I try to meet each person where they are and work with them to go as far as they want to go in their own growth.
An important aspect of my clinical approach comes from my own health and balance. I strongly believe that one should practice what they preach, with humility. I would never ask someone to do something I wouldn’t be willing to do. I lived in a residential Buddhist meditation house for 6 years and continue to use the concepts and yoga/meditation practices I learned to maintain my own wellness. It is important for me to help each person find their own balance and routines that work for them and their lifestyles.
I began working with others teaching guitar, after school sports, yoga, and meditation about 15 years ago. From 2012-2014, I was fortunate enough to be able to teach High School Psychology classes that included Adolescent Social Psychology, Intro to Psychology, and Positive Psychology. For my practicum in 2012, I spent a year at James Lick High School in East San Jose, CA working with individuals and groups. From 2013-2016, I was a community-based therapist meeting clients in their homes, at their schools, or in the community. I provided individual and family support throughout Santa Clara County. This was an invaluable training that allowed me to see what people would talk about in session, since I would be in their homes with them and often see the issues first hand. In 2017, I worked at Brightquest Treatment Center in La Mesa, CA. This was an incredible experience. I worked in this residential facility with clients with severe psychiatric disorders that often also involved addiction. The intense nature of the treatment and regular interaction with clients provided a unique learning experience and genuine connections. Since 2018, I have been working at Family Therapy Center helping children, teens, adults, and families in an outpatient setting. My variety of experiences helps to round out my approach and support people online.
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist #109329
M.A. in Counseling Psychology
B.A. in Psychology with a minor in Business Management
Certified in Positive Discipline
I am a huge music fan and often go to my guitar or music library as my first choice for self-care care or fun. I grew up in New Hampshire, so nature became a big part of my life. I love hiking, camping, and most anything in nature. I am also a big reader. Aside from reading all my psychology books I love to read history books and Sci-Fi Fantasy. Although, I must admit that reading these days tends to be through audiobooks and podcasts. Before I worked with people, I worked as a carpenter and handyman. As a result I like to take on projects building things. There’s something fun about starting a project I don’t know how to finish and then working my way through it.
WHAT DREW ME TO THIS WORK:
I grew up in New Hampshire while my Mom lived in San Diego, California. As a result, most of our relationship was on the phone or through letters. Yes, actual letters with special stationary and everything. The focus of our talks were often around the mind and self-growth. From that experience, I knew that I wanted to study Psychology and try to help people. The challenges of my own growth only strengthened my resolve to help others through their challenges. I have a great deal of respect and admiration for people doing the work of self-betterment and it is incredibly fulfilling to be able to do this as a profession.
MY COMMITMENT TO YOU:
It is my intention to be on your team to help you reach your goals. I will educate you and encourage you to do what you need to do for yourself. I will create a compassionate space where failure is not a problem, but a learning experience. I will be in your corner!
I recognize just how valuable it can be to have a kind, caring, and supportive person to talk to at times of conflict and distress. I have chosen to provide video therapy so that I can be of help to more people, including those who would not feel comfortable seeking a therapist in a more formal setting. I look forward to meeting you and being of support!
SPECIAL AREAS OF INTEREST:
Coming of Age
ADDITIONAL INTEREST AREAS: addiction, ADHD, autism, couples therapy, defiant behavior, grief and loss, improving communication skills, mindfulness, spiritual counseling, mood disorders, parent coaching, personality disorders, psychosis, self-esteem, self-harm, and social skills
SERVICES I OFFER:
Online counseling for individuals, teens, and adults residing in California.
I offer online counseling on Mondays - Fridays during the day. Please check my calendar to see what on-going time slots I currently have open.